Play Your Way Into A Man’s Heart

Are you a gamer?

Board games?

A frisbee?

Computer games?

Swimming pool?

Then ask your partner to join in.

Alternatively, ask someone you enjoy to play with if you don’t have a boyfriend.

It’s possible that some ridiculous fun will create amazing chemistry.

You’re not the only one who gets sick of the standard coffee shop first date.

Gathering much enthusiasm when exchanging tales amidst the bustle of a packed café is difficult.

Coffee dates need little energy and money. Not much is expected of you.

That’s why you should feel inspired on the second date.

You are aware that you have enough things in common to talk for a minimum of sixty minutes.

You want to go further and discover the true nature of this man and what drives him.

However, if he continues to be reticent around you.

It’s because he’s still making an effort to behave well. How do you get him let down his guard?

You have access to games.

If you’ve ever worked in corporate America, you may recall those team-building activities where everyone would go play laser tag or bowl.

 

Having fun and fostering goodwill are the intended outcomes, but they don’t always materialize.

The dynamics of the same old office might recur.

The competitive team members take charge, and the others choose to observe and chat rather than take part.

A game needs to captivate everyone for it to succeed.

That implies your first measure of compatibility should be to choose something you both like doing.

The National Institute for Play’s founder, Dr. Stuart Brown, identified eight categories of “play personalities”:

The competitive person who wants to win.

The kinesthetic who enjoys movement.

The explorer who finds novelty stimulating.

The joker who enjoys pulling practical jokes.

The director who likes to plan everything.

The collector who selects experiences.

The artist who requires space to work and the storyteller who enjoys giving a performance.

If you challenge him to a mini-golf match, you’ll soon find out which group he belongs to.

Don’t be shocked if the polished, classy person you met at the café turns into a lot silly and exuberant guy after you’re fully engrossed in the game.

 

Play is not planned; it is spontaneous. You no longer feel self-conscious. Playing might increase your sense of vulnerability, particularly if you’re still learning the abilities.

This is the ideal environment to bring out the traits of a man who has only shown you his best side thus far.

Does he become angry and vent his frustration on someone or something if it’s a game he’s not good at?

Does he get more competitive or does he take it well if you start to beat him?

A man who doesn’t try to take advantage of you, recognizes when you’re having trouble, lends a helping hand, and keeps a sense of humor throughout is what you want to see.

This is not the World Cup finals; this is simply a game.

Playing is more than a way to assess a man.

It’s also a means of adding some spice to an already-established bond.