Rage Or A Revenge Affair

It is more of an effort to move beyond one’s spouse rather than of a movement toward the other person.

Important Points:

1. The spouse’s infidelity may have directly caused the cheating.

“I’ll demonstrate!

Take this! ….I want the pain you feel to equal my own.

Alternatively, the affair could be retaliation for some perceived emotional harm or cutoff: “I’ll show you because I’m not getting enough here.” or “I got your interest right there!”

2. This tends to occur in marriages where there is either inadequate or no personal conflict.

There is skepticism when it comes to giving oneself completely to another person.

Although there is often politeness in a married relationship, the two are essentially strangers to one another.

There’s no fire, yet they’re courteous. Though they may not know how to obtain more, they may desire more.

3. The partnership does have a fire, but it’s a smoldering tension under it.

The frustration that one or both of them feel when their wants aren’t being satisfied might be the cause of the tension.

Although there is a sincere desire for more from the partner, it isn’t materializing.

4. This type of retaliation affair acts as a relationship awakening call.

The relationship does have a great opportunity of developing into something amazing if, and I use the term if cautiously, the pair can “get it out” and start talking about their needs.

“I REALLY want you!” must be said with a lot of emotion by one or both of them.

I will no longer put up with the simmering resentment and seeming disregard for my needs.

I require and anticipate this.

5. There is another type of retaliation that is more harmful and has less hope.

Long-standing, unresolved animosity or rage toward the other sex may lead to a revenge affair.

There is an ongoing

6. This type of fury is not so much annoyance as wrath.

Rather from coming from a place of dissatisfaction over demands unmet, the wrath comes from a desire to hurt.

Additionally, this individual shows little regard for the other person.

On the other hand, someone who is more irritated because they can’t have their wants satisfied is typically more respectful of others.

Advice:

Learn to distinguish between annoyance and wrath.

Choose the kind of revenge you have to deal with.

If it’s anger, learn to set limits and defend yourself.

Take great care of yourself from now on.

Start saying no! If it’s a frustrated relationship, start examining your needs.

Determine and communicate those needs.

Take a chance.

Activate the passion button